Dater Beware


miracle book cover_0001The Miracle of Us: Confessions of an Online Dater has been so well received. I’m grateful, blessed and a little amazed at all the positive comments. People have said (or written) the following:

“…great read…captivating…page turner…excellent…amazing…inspiring…”

Thanks to everyone who has read or is in the process of reading and has encouraged me with such wonderful praise. I say the glory goes to God.

While I’m basking in your kindness, I’m also sending a caution.

You see, I’ve been doing some research for one of the characters in my next book, A Voice from the Past, and what I’ve discovered is quite alarming. I don’t want to spoil any future readers’ appointment with the book so let’s just say this character, Sam, is an unsavory one. Which leads me to the point of this post.

Beware of unscrupulous online suitors!

My experience with internet dating ended in wedded bliss, but unfortunately, that’s not always the case. Even though my friend, Carol, and I both met our amazing husbands through that vehicle, we also waded through some cads and even potential dangerous predators. Please be careful when you are pursuing someone online.

And not only online.

Anyone practiced in deception can convince us to fall for their charms. I had a couple of close calls with some I’ve met. It is crucial to get other opinions from family or friends who know you best. (Thank you Carol!) When we are swooped off our feet by someone intending to disarm us and use us, it’s easy to have our thinking a little distorted. For specific tips see my earlier posts: Fantasy vs. Reality, Are You Kidding?, Meeting Face to Face, and Meeting Face to Fact Part 2.

Are You Dating A Crook?

This was the title of a brief insert in the Feb/Mar 2012 issue of AARP Magazine.  It gave the information for MyMatchChecker.com and BeenVerified.com where you can get access to public records like criminal history. Is seems like the $15 -$89 (depending on the level of info you choose) is worth the investment.

Online dating can be a great vehicle for finding the love of your life. But be careful. Be wise. Because you’re worth it.

Have any online dating stories to share? We’d love to hear… 

9 thoughts on “Dater Beware

  1. I have really been enjoying the book even if I know the ending of sorts and I will hate to get to the last page because it will be the end of that chapter of your lives. In other words, I want to finish it but I don’t want to put it down.

    Unfortunately, there are those who will go to great lengths to take advantage of others. I fell for a lie and it was supposed to be friendship online but that lie cut so deep because he was an impostor which made everything he portrayed a lie. Many people on the internet do not give their accurate info. I guess I trust too easily–even friends have been taking advantage of me lately. You are right about using others as a sounding board. I really hate betrayal.

    Keep up the great writing. While I may never find that one person for me–maybe it’s too late, I can cheer on others as they find theirs. 🙂 Take care! – Amy 🙂

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    1. Thank you for your great comments and encouragement. I’m so sorry for the betrayal you have experienced. It’s so heartbreaking when someone lies to us. I tend to be fairly trusting of people too so I understand how easy it is to get hurt that way. I don’t believe it is ever too late – hey, I’m proof! But I understand the feeling that it could be. God is our number one love, but he still may have a bonus for you too. I’m praying 🙂

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  2. Laura, I haven’t personally experienced a cad online, but there have been some from my past. And Dr. Phil calls them “catfish”. Your advice is bang on. 🙂 Still reading. 🙂

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