I’m not a trained or licensed counselor. That’s my disclaimer. But I have read dozens of books, spent hundreds of hours in counseling and led groups dealing with addictions. Most importantly, I’ve experienced addiction in some way for the majority of my life. Either being addicted or living with one. Here’s the simple truth. Whether … More The Effects of Addiction Trauma
Far back, as long ago as I can remember, I believed perfection was the key. I remember spilling a bottle of milk on the kitchen floor as I attempted to “help” my mom with the groceries. As a devastated three-year-old, an expectation formed in my soul and proved itself over and over in my life … More Letting Go of Expectations
The scene above may be humorous, but fear is nothing to joke about. God wired us with a healthy sense of fear to protect us from danger. But when fear dictates our lives, we can become trapped in patterns that destroy us. Here are a few things I’ve been learning about fear lately: Fear steals … More What Are You Afraid Of?
“I will break the yoke of bondage from your neck and tear off the chains…” Nahum 1:13 Say what? This verse from the old testament prophet spoke of the ancient oppression of the Assyrians. The Lord promised his people that their freedom would come from his hand. So what does that have to do … More Are You in Chains?
This weekend’s service at my church began a new series titled Life, Money, Hope: God’s Way Works. I’m excited about this series because I’ve found that the Bible really does have the answers to every situation in our lives. God knew what we would need to navigate life. He didn’t randomly throw things together and … More Can You Admit the Truth?
Sometimes moving our life forward means taking care of the past. It all started with a silly poem I made up for my daughter, Ashley, when she was little. The poem traveled around with me, visited various illustrator possibilities and spent months pinned up on my double, sliding closet door. In between, the being-refined poem … More Nearly 20 Years Later…
No, I’m not talking about guns. (But fun picture, isn’t it?) Milan and Kay Yerkovich define a trigger as …a strong reactive feeling about something that is happening in the present, a feeling turbocharged by a hurt in the past.” Ever have one of those? Yeah, I thought so. It took me years to understand … More What Triggers You?
Anger is a secondary emotion. That what the workbook I use to lead women through a study on relationships says. The truth of that statement recently catapulted me into a season of discovering the source of my anger. And that what feels like anger isn’t always…well, anger. The inexplicable rage that builds like a volcano … More Why Are You Angry?
Ever question the choices you make? Do you wonder why you act the way you do? Or react in certain ways? Do you find yourself in the middle of a road rage moment, a fight with your spouse or yelling at your best friend and question how you got there? Like, what just happened? I’m … More Feel Like Your Life is in the Gutter?
I wish everyone would stop hiding and seek help for their issues. There. I’ve said it. I’m not as hardhearted as that may sound. It’s voiced from a place of compassionate frustration because I know the freedom available. I’m living it. The women in the small groups I lead experience it. My heart breaks in … More Why Getting Help is So Important