Ever feel like smashing something? I certainly have. And I have smashed, slammed, thrown and torn up things. Sometimes our pain lashes out in rage. Whether it’s with words or objects, towards others or ourselves, destruction is never a healthy answer to our distress. But how do I stop? In the book of Romans, Paul … More The Third “D” Word
Ever question the choices you make? Do you wonder why you act the way you do? Or react in certain ways? Do you find yourself in the middle of a road rage moment, a fight with your spouse or yelling at your best friend and question how you got there? Like, what just happened? I’m … More Feel Like Your Life is in the Gutter?
I’ll come straight to the point. I’ve come to recognize other women like myself who have tried to protect themselves by denying the truth of trauma, abuse or sexual addiction in their lives or their spouses’ lives. But the protection we think we create actually prolongs our pain and hurts those we love as well. … More Facing Our Pain
We’re continuing our series on becoming free… I recognize women who have tried to protect themselves by denying the truth of their past sexual abuse, domestic violence or a spouse’s sexual addiction. Denying the lie they are living and the part they play. It’s excruciatingly painful to face the truth head on. To acknowledge the … More Is This Your Year of Freedom?
Until we can come face to face with the deepest, darkest fact of life without damaging our view of God’s character, we do not yet know Him. Oswald Chambers For most of my previously married years, I saw my marriage as the biggest problem with my life. It’s true, it wasn’t good. I longed to … More What Is Your Darkest Fact of Life?
How many of us really know who we are? Most of us have been shaped by words spoken to us in anger or impatience or from another person’s broken perspective. Who of us didn’t have some kid or kids at school tell us we were stupid, lame, ugly, fat or unwanted for some reason. I … More Who ARE You?
I just finished a great book. Not only did the riveting writing make it a great read, but the impact of the message kept me wanting more. I had a hard time putting it down. The characters drew me in as if I were making new friends, and I cared about their struggles. The author … More In the Image of God
Whether we are trapped in addiction or in a relationship with someone who is, God can shed light on the places of darkness and has a plan to rescue us from disaster. It is His delight to do so. His rescue comes through forgiveness. Jesus offers it to us. He asks us to extend it … More What is Forgiveness?
Last week we talked about our compulsion to step in and take responsibility for others. We do this out of an unhealthy feeling that something bad will happen if we don’t. Most likely, we developed this sense from living in unsafe situations, especially as children. As we identify these patterns, God can free us from … More Do I Take Responsibility for Others?
Isn’t it my job to fix this? One of the things that can keep us stuck in abusive or broken (not functioning well) situations is our feeling responsible for other people’s actions. This has been a huge area of struggle for me, and something I’m still working to understand so I can act differently. Sometimes … More Stuck in Abusive Relationship?