Isn’t it my job to fix this? One of the things that can keep us stuck in abusive or broken (not functioning well) situations is our feeling responsible for other people’s actions. This has been a huge area of struggle for me, and something I’m still working to understand so I can act differently. Sometimes … More Stuck in Abusive Relationship?
There’s a book in the Bible about a man named Nehemiah. He was brokenhearted over the fact that the city of Jerusalem was in ruins, and after praying to God about it, he embarked on a mission to rebuild the walls. I love this story for a number of reasons. First of all, I’m moved … More Getting Well Series – How Do You Rebuild Your Life?
When we’ve been hurt, how do we trust God to heal us? I think one of the hardest things about getting well is being afraid to trust God with our healing. I mean, after all, if God made the universe and sees everything that goes on then where was he when I was being hurt? … More Getting Well Series – Can I Trust God to Heal Me?
Time to make a U-Turn. We’ve agreed we want to get well. Even though it seems scary and is uncomfortable, we see our need for healing. The reasons we fall into depression make a little more sense. We’re examining our choices, and are learning to ask others for help. Much of our unhealthiness of heart … More Getting Well Part 5 – How to Turn it Around
We were never intended to figure out life on our own. I had been one to isolate myself, but this wasn’t God’s plan. When Jesus asks us if we want to get well and offers to instruct us in the ways to healing, he doesn’t say, Great! Good for you. Have fun figuring that out. … More Getting Well Part 4 – Can You Ask for Help?
We’re ready for the good God has, but depression blankets us in darkness. What’s up? I learned that when I felt confused or depressed, it meant I was striving to figure things out so I could get them back into my control. For me, depression often comes as the result of knowing a particular direction … More Getting Well Part 2 – What’s Up With This Depression??
So you want to get well. Now what? From the moment I answered God’s question affirmatively, my life became one revelation after another. Suddenly, I saw wounded places in my heart that I had never noticed before. I had a new understanding about my abuse and recognized the truth that God was showing me. I … More Getting Well Part 1
Sometimes our pain and brokenness feels safer than the prospect of healing. There’s a story in the Bible about a crippled man. He spent his life reclining next to a pool of healing, but had never been able to make it into the pool. “When Jesus saw him lying there, and knew that he had … More Do You Want to Get Well?
I heard another story of a brokenhearted woman this week. Hard circumstances followed her through life and relationships never seemed to turn out right. Deceived by men over the years, she wondered if anyone would ever love her purely, rightly, completely—at all. She hates the life she’s found herself trapped in, but doesn’t know how … More Sex Begets Sex
The unpredictability of life with an addict causes stress and inner turmoil. We’ve been looking at the patterns of living with someone who suffers from an addiction, specifically in the area of sexual addiction. Often we can be lulled into a lifestyle of survival, minimizing, denial and isolation that becomes our new normal. We … More Living With an Addict – Part 4