Big dreams start with small steps. I believe big things are coming in this new year. God has already done miracles in my marriage, family and business, and I believe he’s calling us to trust him for even more than we can hope for or imagine. (Eph. 3:20) We have to think bigger. Recently, in … More Dream Big
I’m not a trained or licensed counselor. That’s my disclaimer. But I have read dozens of books, spent hundreds of hours in counseling and led groups dealing with addictions. Most importantly, I’ve experienced addiction in some way for the majority of my life. Either being addicted or living with one. Here’s the simple truth. Whether … More The Effects of Addiction Trauma
Sometimes moving our life forward means taking care of the past. It all started with a silly poem I made up for my daughter, Ashley, when she was little. The poem traveled around with me, visited various illustrator possibilities and spent months pinned up on my double, sliding closet door. In between, the being-refined poem … More Nearly 20 Years Later…
I’ll come straight to the point. I’ve come to recognize other women like myself who have tried to protect themselves by denying the truth of trauma, abuse or sexual addiction in their lives or their spouses’ lives. But the protection we think we create actually prolongs our pain and hurts those we love as well. … More Facing Our Pain
Until we can come face to face with the deepest, darkest fact of life without damaging our view of God’s character, we do not yet know Him. Oswald Chambers For most of my previously married years, I saw my marriage as the biggest problem with my life. It’s true, it wasn’t good. I longed to … More What Is Your Darkest Fact of Life?
Whether we are trapped in addiction or in a relationship with someone who is, God can shed light on the places of darkness and has a plan to rescue us from disaster. It is His delight to do so. His rescue comes through forgiveness. Jesus offers it to us. He asks us to extend it … More What is Forgiveness?
I heard another story of a brokenhearted woman this week. Hard circumstances followed her through life and relationships never seemed to turn out right. Deceived by men over the years, she wondered if anyone would ever love her purely, rightly, completely—at all. She hates the life she’s found herself trapped in, but doesn’t know how … More Sex Begets Sex
Our sexuality is the core of our being. So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him: male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27 God created us to be like Him as male and female. Those two elements, in God’s perfection, join to form one being; not … More Why Our Sexuality is Open to Attack
The unpredictability of life with an addict causes stress and inner turmoil. We’ve been looking at the patterns of living with someone who suffers from an addiction, specifically in the area of sexual addiction. Often we can be lulled into a lifestyle of survival, minimizing, denial and isolation that becomes our new normal. We … More Living With an Addict – Part 4
Any of these statements sound familiar? I thought he was my rescue. When our child was born, my husband became sullen, neglectful and harsh. I found a box of pornographic magazines hidden in the closet. By the third drink, he was rude and mean with cruel sarcasm. He really hurt me the other night. There’s … More Living With An Addict – Part 3