The World’s Best Father


Today, on Father’s Day here in the USA, we honor our fathers.

Depending on what our experience has been we may be grateful for the way our fathers raised us, we may be grieving the loss of them, or we might not even know them. It’s likely that we have some difficult memories and some good ones. Or maybe none at all. Some have experienced great joy in their relationship with their father, but others have lived through horrendous abuse.

One thing is agreed on by experts, and that is that the experience we have with our earthly father influences the way we see our heavenly father.

Consider for a moment how you view or have viewed God.

Do you think of him as distant? Anger or harsh? Is he a punishing God? Or perhaps he’s non-existent.

But today, let’s look at what is true about God, our Everlasting Father. The Bible shows us all the characteristics of the what a good father looks like:

  • He created us to be like him. We are wonderfully made. (Gen. 1:27; Deut. 32:6; Psalm 139:14)
  • He longs to be with us. (Gen. 3:9; John 17:20-23)
  • He is slow to anger. (Exodus 34:6; Psalm 103:8)
  • He is compassionate, gracious, merciful, and full of love. (Ex. 34:6; Deut. 4:31; I John 4)
  • He is faithful and forgiving. (Ex. 34:7; Col. 3:13))
  • He is available to us. (Deut.4:29; Psalm 5:7; Heb. 4:16)
  • He will not abandon us. (Deut. 4:31; Nehemiah 9:19)
  • He will contend with our enemies, fight for us, and vindicate us. (I Sam. 25:39; I Chron. 14:11; Psalm 140:12)
  • He blesses us. (Job 41:12; Deut. 7:13)
  • He keeps us safe. (Psalm 4:8; Psalm 23:4
  • He gives us good gifts. (Psalm 34:10; Psalm 103:5; Matt. 6:25-34; James 1:17)
  • He corrects us with loving discipline. (Prov. 3:12; Heb. 12:5-11)
  • He gives us an inheritance. (Rom. 8:15-16; I Peter 1:4)
  • He delights in us. (Zep. 3:17)

Shall we go on?

This is only a small sample of the truth of who God is as our Father. When we see or experience tragedy, it’s easy to blame God – especially if we don’t really know his true character.

But he loves us and is a good, good father. Our Abba Father.

The world’s best Father.

A Father’s Heart


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Our earthly fathers teach us about the heart of our heavenly Father.

If they display kindness, patience, gentle instruction, and loving discipline we will view God’s heart towards us in that same way.

And if they are distant, demanding, angry or violent towards us, we will expect our heavenly father to be of that nature.

Dad’s have a huge responsibility.

A mother nurtures and cares for her children…

but a father sets the course of their entire spiritual journey.

That is no small task.

Thank goodness God fathers us first, always and last. Father’s have a heavenly father who shows them what a good father does.

  • He gives good gifts. (Matt. 7:11)
  • He disciplines those he loves as sons. (Prov. 3:12)
  • He is a helper to the fatherless. (Psalm 10:14)
  • He has compassion on his children. (Psalm 103:13)
  • He is consistent. (James 1:17)

So whether or not your father set the example well, God is and has always been our good father.

And for those fathers who have made it their intent to be good father’s to their children, you’ve given your children a greater foundation than you could ever imagine.

Well done. Thank you.

What are some things your father did to show you the character of God?

 

 

 

 

Look Here, But Don’t Look


 As a young girl, my life situation and society around me portrayed women as objects to be used for pleasure.

Men were expected to stare, flirt, touch, fondle, kiss and hopefully take the object of their lust to bed. “Real” women enjoyed being the object of someone else’s desire and would join in eagerly. If they resisted, it wasn’t because they meant no, it was only that they were teasing as part of a game. A man was supposed to pursue and conquer sexually; the woman should melt in his arms. But as soon as she was conquered, she earned the label “slut,” “easy,” or “loose.”

As Christian women, we were responsible for drawing a line, holding men back and making sure that purity reigned; thus relieving men of any respectful responsibility in the relationship. Then, as Christian wives, we’re to submit our bodies wholeheartedly because they no longer belong to us. What a contradiction in emotion and values for a woman, and often a license for selfish, irresponsible men.

As a girl surrounded by these ideas, I grew up looking for the love I craved in all the wrong ways and places.

If a young girl has an absent father, one who spends most of his time at work or play, is emotionally disengaged, or has abandoned the family altogether, she may start flirting or dressing to show off her body in order to secure the attention and affection she misses. Dressing provocatively has become the norm in our society, so often a girl innocently enjoys the attention it brings without understanding the statement she makes.

I noticed an advertisement for an upcoming show in which the woman, who was wearing an extremely low cut blouse asked the man she was talking to why he was looking at her breasts instead of her eyes. Is that a trick question? It presents a contrary and unfair message for both men and women! “Look here, but don’t look!” As women, we must be cautious what we portray to men.

Now, take the same girl who is desperately seeking a father to love and cherish her, and affirm her importance. If she meets someone seeking to use her sexually, she is in trouble without even being aware of it. Patterns can then be set and repeat themselves in each relationship she has.

In my case, unhealthy childhood patterns led to many unhealthy relationships.

Sexual promiscuity became the norm for my life, and I was afraid that if I didn’t go along with whatever was asked or expected of me, I wouldn’t be loved. I often felt sickened by my circumstances and had a deep sense that it wasn’t as it should be, but I didn’t understand the patterns. I didn’t know how to break free. Marriage seemed to be an answer. My dream for love and acceptance could be lived out in a Christian home with a man who promised to be faithful to me until death. Wasn’t that a guarantee?

The Bible says that deep calls to deep (Psalm 42:7); God’s spirit calls to ours. But also, the beliefs and values we’ve adopted over the years that reside deep within our soul or spirit, call to similar patterns in others. My longing for love and attention called out to men looking to fulfill something broken in themselves. Marriage didn’t change the patterns. It created another kind of trap…

Have you felt trapped in behaviors or patterns you didn’t want to be in? Do you think society’s portrayal of sex is helpful, destructive or neutral?